10 ESSENTIALS FOR THOSE NEW TO RECOVERY FROM SEXUAL SIN

Hey guys, we're going to take a little different road this week.  I had a friend of mine, Jeff, ask if he could contribute an article for the newsletter and my blog.  Considering the age we live in I thought it was very well timed.  I just read an article from Paul Caughlin in an email from Focus on the Family that reminds me that we're all susceptible to the temptations of porn.  Here is a clip from that article:

"Christians aren’t immune. When surveyed, 53% of men
who attended Promise Keeper said they viewed pornography that week. 

More than 45% of Christians admit that pornography is a major problem in their home. 

An anonymous survey conducted recently by Pastors.com reported that 54% of
pastors admitted viewing porn within the last year."
Pornography and Virtual Infidelity

Jeff Fisher from porntopurity.com has a great ministry to those recovering and healing from sexual sin.  There is more info on Jeff after the article.

10 ESSENTIALS FOR THOSE NEW TO RECOVERY FROM SEXUAL SIN

I want to offer some top tips for you who are new to recovery.  These are lessons I’ve had to struggle through in my own recovery, but I find them to be universal with most guys who want freedom from sexual sin.

1.  The quicker you go to counseling the better.
Sexual sin is MUCH bigger than you.  You need wise people around you to help you process your crisis and help you go underneath the surface.  We have been acting out sexually for many reasons.  Counselors know what questions to ask and have worked with may who struggle just like you.  Break the ice on going to a counselor.  Find a Christian counselor who has training in sexual struggles.  It is money well spent!

2.  The quicker you go to a support group the better.
Second only to a counselor, a support group is the best place to find healing and victory over sexual sin.  You need to know you’re not alone.  You need other guys to walk with you in the mud.  You need to learn to come out of isolation and into real relationships.  Support groups do all that and more.

3.  Sexual struggles open the door for God to work in many areas.
At first, we think recovery is only about stopping our sexual behaviors.   But God ends up using your sexual struggles as a springboard to work on many issues in your life.  We are out of wack sexually, but also relationally, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.  Expect God to do His good surgery in many areas of your life.

4.  Sex is not your greatest need.
One of the biggest lies we believe is that we can’t live with out sex and that sex is the highest pleasure achievable.  Our greatest needs are in other areas.  We have a deep need to know God.  We have a deep need to know others and to be known by others.  The sooner you understand that it’s not about the orgasm, the further along in recovery you’ll be.  Trust me on this one!

5.  Recovery has little to do with your outward behavior.
This is probably the biggest shocker to me.  I focused on my behaviors for decades and was counseled to do the same.  Our outward sexual behaviors are the tip of the iceburg.  The bulk of our recovery is underneath the surface.  We need healing from wounds.  We need to learn to express our emotions in a healthy way.  We need deep intimate friendships.  We need to learn to be selfless and serve others.  Stopping behaviors is relatively easy.  Healing on the inside takes much more time and effort.

6.  It’s worse than you think.
We are not the best judges of our own sexual health.  We have been blinded to our true condition.  Every sexual struggler in recovery says at some point, “I can’t believe who I used to be and what I used to do.  I was such a different person back then.”  If you’re new to recovery, you can’t see how far off course you are.  You can’t see the erosion that has taken place in your relationships and in your personal life.  Let this soak in:  Jeff tells me I am worse than I think I am. I have more to work on than I realize.

7.  Replacing lies with truth is critical to recovery.
We also can’t see the lies that we have believed.  My counselor reminds me that with every wound there is a lie that I have believed.  It’s not until you start seeing the truth that you will uncover the lies you have believed.  God’s Word will help you with this.  So will counselors, your spouse, your support group, and close friends who know your story.

8.  Work toward full disclosure.
Ooooh.  We don’t like to think about this.  But the sooner you come clean, the better.  Get the help from a counselor on how to come clean and with whom.  Those closest to you need to know.  Your spouse needs to know.  The people you have been directly involved with need to know.  Not every person needs to know every detail, but you need to quit hiding and share the truth.  When you hold onto secrets and hide you walk in the darkness.  God calls us to “walk in the light”.

9.  Pain and suffering are necessary for deep recovery.
There are no shortcuts to recovery.  There are no quick fixes.  You cannot save yourself from pain and suffering.  Breaking free from sexual sin involves challenge, hurt, brokenness, withdrawal and grieving.  You will have to suffer consequences.  You will have to see that your actions have hurt others.  Go for a deep recovery.  The only way for our recovery to go deep is if we let God push his scalpel in and scrape out all of the junk.

10. God is close and wants to bear the burden with you.
As tough as these tips are, I want you to think about this one the most.  You are not alone.  God is here.  He will help you.  He wants your recovery even more than you and He knows how to get there.  You may go through a lot of hard times, but God will always be a strong shoulder you can lean on.  He helps carry us through the toughest of times.  Be encouraged by this.

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Jeff Fisher lives in Raleigh, NC.  He and his wife run the site www.porntopurity.com, a site designed to offer hope, encouragement and resources to those who are affected by sexual sin.  Checkout Jeff’s podcasts on I-Tunes:  Top Tips For Sexual Purity, Top Verses For Sexual Purity, and For Ministers Who Struggle.
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I Want to Know What Love Is

If you’re in your late 30’s or early 40’s you’re like me and were a teen in the 80’s.  We were lucky enough with the bands of the 70’s and 80’s.  I mean not just some wimpy teeny-bopper bands like today, but these were some established rock bands that wrote some awesome songs. Many of these bands wrote some great ballads as well. I used to crank this stuff all the time.  That’s what we did, right?  I drove around with my girl friend in my ’68 Chevelle, back when they really were hot rods not just chick cars with subwoofers.  We listened to all those songs and we thought we had it all figured out.

Ok, fast forward a few years and I’m getting married.  Standing at the altar and my soon to be wife walks into the room on the arm of her father, my first thought was “I’m getting married!?!?”  Don’t get me wrong, I was in love with her, I mean I knew all the songs by heart.

Fast forward a few more years.  I’m a married guy and I’m wondering why my wife is upset with me.  Every morning before I left for work I would tell her, “I love you” because I still remembered what it meant.  So what was bugging her?  In 1984 Foreigner released the song “I Want to Know What Love Is”.  Here’s the chorus:

I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
I wanna feel what love is
I know you can show me
I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
And I wanna feel, I want to feel what love is
And I know, I know you can show me.

I was beginning to get the feeling that saying “I love you” was not showing her that I loved her.

The Bible uses three different words for our word love.  Phileo is friendship love, Philadelphia – city of brotherly love.  Next is eros.  This is passion, sexual, or erotic.  Sadly our world has high jacked this and told everyone this is real love.  Soap operas, porn, tv, and movies portray people jumping into bed and say that it’s love.  In God’s plan of marriage first and sex second, eros love is a great thermometer of our relationship, but the world thinks it’s a thermostat.  What I mean is the world thinks if we have great sex our relationship will get better.  The truth is, if your marriage relationship is great you’ll have great sex.  The last, and in my opinion, the greatest love is agape.  This is the self-sacrificing love, the selfless love, the willing to give up our wants to please our spouse.

In Ephesians 5:25, Paul tells us how we are to love our wives, “as Christ loved the church”.  He died for the church, remember?  1 John 3:16 “We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.”  I think that is probably the ultimate in self-sacrificing.  John even tells us that we should be willing to die for the brethren.  We should be agape loving our fellow believers, and I think you could argue all mankind.  Christ didn’t only die for Christians; He died for all.  Here is another part that the world gets wrong, agape love isn’t reciprocal.  It’s not give and take; it’s all give.  Our goal should be to please others.  Paul write for us in Romans 5:8, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”  While we were living against God’s law, he still loved us enough to die.  We can’t “love” our wives according to what she does for us; we are commanded to love our wives because we are to mirror Christ.  This falls into all of our relationships.  We can’t only love our kids when they get good grades or score more points. 

Likewise, I believe that showing agape love towards our neighbors and the world in general is the best way to win them to Christ.  By consisting serving your neighbor he may wonder “why do you shovel my snow even I yell at your kids?”, “what’s so different about you?”.

Agape love is what holds marriages together for 60 years.  Agape love builds long lasting friendships.  Agape love brings people to Christ.

~Walter E. Homan

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Let's Hang Our Camo In The Closet And Only Use It When We're In The Wild

A Daily Study of God's Word for Christian Sportsmen February 4, 2011

Today's Photograph . . . . Let's Hang Our Camo In The Closet And Only Use It When We're In The Wild (MQ) Bible Study Verse Matthew 26:73-74 After a little while, those standing there went up to Peter and said, "Surely you are one of them, for your accent gives you away." Then he began to call down curses on himself and he swore to them, "I don't know the man!" (NIV) Thoughts I couldn't have been any closer. The big eight-point buck was less than two feet away! As he stepped slightly behind me, he caught my scent and was gone, leaving only my heart pounding in my chest. What a rush! I had been squirrel hunting in Northeast Arkansas when the encounter happened. I was sitting on the ground just on the edge of a power line right-of- way. Thanks to my excellent camouflage, the buck didn't see me as he patrolled the highline. The wind was perfect and he came right up to me. Had it not been for good wind direction and my good camouflage clothing, this encounter would have never happened. (Brian H) Action Point Man! There is nothing like a good set of camouflage hunting clothes. It's helpful, it's functional, and it's even been made decorative in today's culture. Let's face it, camo is in! However, there's a type of camouflage that's not good at all. The camouflage that Christians put on in order to blend in. We're so afraid of being recognized and ridiculed that we're like Peter around the fire. "Hey, I don't know Him!" We've become masters of blending in to the point that it actually surprises people when they find out that we are Christians. How sad a testimony to our Savior this is. OK, sportsmen around the world, let's hang our camouflage in the closet and only use it when we're in the wild. When we're out in the world, let's make it our purpose to NOT blend in. Let's make it our purpose to stand out like a light on a hill - a lighthouse that prevents our world from totally crashing and burning on the rocks of sin and eternal punishment. There are encounters for God that will never happen as long as we're blending in so well that the world thinks we're one of them. God bless you, friend, as you strive to stand out!!!

Sportsmen's Tip of the Day Add a tiny drop or two of mineral oil and a light dusting of salt to your rubber tube jigs and plastic artificial baits to keep them from melting in the summer heat and sticking together. The salt adds a bit of flavor to them as well.

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God’s Job Description for Men - Prophet Priest and King Series / Part 3 - A Godly Man’s Role as King

We often look across the pond to England and view the royals when we think of kings and queens.  We see them as figureheads more than anything else.  We see them ride in chariots and Rolls Royce’s; vacationing in exotic places, and throwing lavish parties that would cost us a lifetime of paychecks to pay for.  If you recall just a few months ago, Prince Charles was attacked because of the people rage against the privileged royal family while the rest of England struggles to survive.

Deuteronomy 17:15-20 gives us a good list of what was required by God for the king of Israel:

·      Chosen by God vs. 15

·      Shall not multiply horses for himself vs. 16

·      Shall not multiply wives vs. 17

·      Shall not increase silver and gold for himself vs.17

·      He shall write a copy of the scripture and keep it with him always and to obey it vs.19

·      Shall not be lifted up above his countrymen vs.20

·      Shall not turn away from the commandments vs.20

So what is the picture of a Christlike king?  What would his traits be? 

First he would have to be willing to make himself a servant-leader.  Servant-leader?  Seems like an oxymoron doesn’t it?  I thought we were talking about being a king?  In Matthew 20:25 Jesus warns us of worldly kings wielding their authority over us.  In vs. 26-28 He lays it out for us, “It is not this way among you, abut whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant, and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”  If you beat your wife over the head with your authoritative position as king you’ll never know what it’s like to be loved and respected by her.  You may be feared but is that your goal?  The end of vs. 28 tells us plainly “to give His life”.  Our culture frowns on servant hood but it’s truly a high calling.  Please don’t confuse this with slavery.  Neither the husband nor wives are to be slaves, remember Eve came from Adam’s side not his foot. 

Lets hit the second part of servant-leader.  Leadership seems to be lost in modern families.  With shows like “the Simpsons”, “Home Improvement”, “According to Jim”, and many others; fathers/men are looked at as buffoons.  Men can’t do anything right and they’re always acting immature and selfish.  No wonder we have a bunch of messed up kids growing up, they’ve never seen a real man act like a real man.  Leadership is not being some kind of a tyrant but it is ruling your house.  Like it or not guys we are responsible in the sight of God for what goes on with our wives and kids.  I’m not saying adults aren’t responsible for their own choices, I’m saying that it is our job to make sure we taught and trained them well.  2 Samuel 22:3-4 says “…He who rules over men righteously, who rules in the fear of God, is as the light of the morning when the sun rises, a morning without clouds, when the tender grass springs out of the earth, through sunshine after rain.”

So what does a leader do?  HE LEADS! Duh!  He doesn’t follow his wife to church; he leads her to church.  He doesn’t listen quietly while she reads the Bible to him; he takes her by the hand, sits down with her, and leads her in Bible study.  He doesn’t stare at the floor while she corrects the children; he steps up takes their wrath and leads his kids in Biblical discipline.  I was guilty of all of this.  I sat by and let my wife do everything.  I found she lost respect for me, I lost respect for me, and I wasn’t following God’s plan for being a man.

A Godly king will: look to God and the Bible for guidance and wisdom, serve his wife and family, encourage them to seek after God’s plan for their life, provide for them both physically and spiritually, protect them, and lead and train them in Godly teachings.

Let’s follow Christ in being the Prophets, Priests, and Kings to our families that God has called us to be.

~Walter E. Homan

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End Your Season Well

I read this morning and it reminded me of how we have so many eyes on us. We need to guard our integrity, temptation is all around and it takes on many shapes.

Post from:  http://www.christianitytoday.com/moi/2011/001/february/4.4.html

End Your Season Well
Theme of the week: A Hunter's Guide to Holiness
Friday, February 4, 2011

Key Bible Verse: for I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ's return. (Philippians 1:10) Dig Deeper: Philippians 1:9-11

The old fellow stood at the fence and looked longingly at the huge deer that had just jumped it. As if tempting him to shoot, the buck stood there for what seemed like forever and then ran away.

"Why didn't you take the shot, Gramps?" the young hunter asked.

The seasoned hunter remained motionless, looking toward the one that got away. Then he spoke softly. "Boy, you know me better than that. And you know very well that the land on the other side of this fence is off limits."

The grandson grew very quiet as his grandfather continued. "Young man, I've been around for a lot of years and managed to build a pretty good reputation for being on the up-and-up when it comes to following the rules. I'm not about to let an old buck tempt me into messing up now. I'm too close to the end of my season for such foolishness."

No shots were fired that day, but a great harvest took place in the boy's heart. He learned firsthand what integrity looks like. If he imitated what was personified in the life of his gramps, the young man would do well in and out of the woods.

—Steve Chapman in A Look at Life from a Deer Stand Devotional

My Response: When I am tempted to "break the rules," I will stop and evaluate the impact the decision would have on myself and others.

Thought to Apply: You must bless the church and the world by your holiness, or you will curse them both by your hypocrisy and inconsistency.—Charles Spurgeon (British preacher)

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God’s Job Description for Men - Prophet Priest and King Series / Part 2 - A Godly Man’s Role as Priest

This week we are going to look our role as priest, no robe required.  The priests of the Old Testament had two major responsibilities: leading worship and interceding for the people.

In the modern church we immediately hear “leading worship” and we think of a song leader.  That certainly is part of it.  How did the priests lead worship?  Lets take a look at a few examples: Noah (Gen. 8:20), Abraham (12:7; 13:4), Isaac (26:25), Jacob (31:54), and Job (Job 1:5).  These men led their family in worship by building an altar and offering a sacrifice.  The reason for sacrifice varied.  Some were offered in thanksgiving, some for first fruits, and some were for to ask forgiveness of sins against God law. 

Easton’s Bible Dictionary describes it as “homage rendered to God”.  Now we can’t offer sacrifices in the same manner that they did but we can still offer them with same spirit.  In what ways can we offer homage?  Music?  Have you ever paid attention to the words of worship songs?  Several of them are love songs to God.  Have you ever lead your family in worship music?  As much as I love music, I don’t think I’ve ever done that.  How about prayer?  When you’ve benefited from God’s grace have you led your family in thankful worship?  God wants to hear from us.  I used to pray the same ”blessing” at every meal.  Ready, here it is “God is great, God is good, now we thank you for this food, amen.”  Now how’s that first deep meaningful prayer?  We get stuck in a rut of speaking christianese to impress who?  God?  I’ve since learned that we need to be real and teach our kids to be real in front of God.  I believe we need speak to God and as would talk to our closest friend.  It’s also incredibly important that we do this in front of our kids and others that look up to us.  They need to see that this is a real relationship.  For some reason we breakout in to old English and we God seem so distant.  We need to get rid of the “thy’s” and “thou’s” out of our prayers.  Our praise and worship has to be real, not rehearsed, not to impress other, just genuine.

As priests we have another responsibility, that of intercessor for our families.  An intercessor is a go between, someone that petitions a higher power on behalf of a lesser power.  Jesus is our intercessor, 1 Timothy 2:5-6 For there is one God, and one mediator also between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, 6 who ^agave Himself as a ransom for all, the testimony given at the proper time.  John 17 gives us an example of what an intercessor should do.  In this chapter Jesus make six different requests or petitions to God.  My Bible titles this the High Priestly Prayer.

1.     Vs. 1, that He(Jesus) would glorify God.  Are we praying that we and our family and friends are glorifying God?

2.     Vs. 3, that others/desciples would know God.  In Phil 1:9, Paul prays that the Philipians would grow in knowledge.   We need to be praying for our families spiritual knowledge.  How to they learn?  It’s our responsibility to provide them with ways to grow.  Family devotions, taking them to church, and talking about the things of God are all ways for them to learn.

3.     Vs. 11, that they would be keep them by his power.  The NIV uses the word protect for keep.  We need to not only pray for their physical safety, but also for their spiritual.  If Satan can’t get us, he will surly go for our kids.

4.     Vs. 17, sanctify them in truth.  We need to be praying for purity for our families and us.  Guys you know as well as I do how easy it would be take just click on that link.  What can our kids access?

5.      Vs. 23, unity.  Unity in church as well as at home.  Do your kids ever fight?  How about you and your wife.

6.     Vs. 24, continual relationship.  I forget what the statistic was exactly but I households where the father takes the family to church, I think it was close to 70% stayed in church compared to 20% were the father didn’t go.

We all pray for safety and grades but are we praying for the deeper things?  Single guys you aren’t off the hook.  You can be praying for all of these things for you families and friends.  Let’s make it a point to get out of the rut and get into some deep conversations with God and brings our loved ones needs with us.

~Walter E. Homan

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Birds of a feather flock together

I found this website that was linked to www.christianoutdoors.com. 

For years I was guilty of neglecting a relationship with other men.  That's all changed now.  Matter a fact I will be enjoying a nice breakfast with about 25 men later this morning.

A Daily Study of God's Word for Christian Sportsmen January 27, 2011 Today's Photograph . . . . The Forest Floor Is Scratched Bare (MQ)

Bible Study Verse Hebrews 10:25 Not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. (ESV) Thoughts "Birds of a feather flock together," is especially helpful when you are trying to shoot them. Fall turkey hunting is the pursuit of turkeys in flocks. You'll know it when you find them. The forest floor, under the canopies of big oaks or beech trees, is scratched bare from the presence of not just one, but many turkeys. I've always been amazed that an effective turkey caller, imitating one turkey, can bring in an entire flock. (Matt F) Action Point Perhaps one of the most distinctive marks of the biblical Christian is that he or she lives in community with other brothers and sisters, "meeting together" as this verse says, in the church. Someone has once well said that there is no churchless Christianity. I wonder; are you neglecting "the flock?" If so, find your place among God's people in a Bible-saturated, Christ-centered church. Sportsmen's Tip of the Day Learn from the experts. Turkey callers who have mastered the subtle variety of turkey calls can give you an arsenal of calls and techniques to bring in birds.   Sportsmen's Devotional Web Site Sign Up

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God’s Job Description for Men / Part 2 - A Godly Man’s Role as Priest

This week we are going to look our role as priest, no robe required.  The priests of the Old Testament had two major responsibilities: leading worship and interceding for the people.

In the modern church we immediately hear “leading worship” and we think of a song leader.  That certainly is part of it.  How did the priests lead worship?  Lets take a look at a few examples: Noah (Gen. 8:20), Abraham (12:7; 13:4), Isaac (26:25), Jacob (31:54), and Job (Job 1:5).  These men led their family in worship by building an altar and offering a sacrifice.  The reason for sacrifice varied.  Some were offered in thanksgiving, some for first fruits, and some were for to ask forgiveness of sins against God law.

Easton’s Bible Dictionary describes it as “homage rendered to God”.  Now we can’t offer sacrifices in the same manner that they did but we can still offer them with same spirit.  In what ways can we offer homage?  Music?  Have you ever paid attention to the words of worship songs?  Several of them are love songs to God.  Have you ever lead your family in worship music?  As much as I love music, I don’t think I’ve ever done that.  How about prayer?  When you’ve benefited from God’s grace have you led your family in thankful worship?  God wants to hear from us.  I used to pray the same ”blessing” at every meal.  Ready, here it is “God is great, God is good, now we thank you for this food, amen.”  Now how’s that first deep meaningful prayer?  We get stuck in a rut of speaking christianese to impress who?  God?  I’ve since learned that we need to be real and teach our kids to be real in front of God.  I believe we need speak to God and as would talk to our closest friend.  It’s also incredibly important that we do this in front of our kids and others that look up to us.  They need to see that this is a real relationship.  For some reason we breakout in to old English and we God seem so distant.  We need to get rid of the “thy’s” and “thou’s” out of our prayers.  Our praise and worship has to be real, not rehearsed, not to impress other, just genuine.

As priests we have another responsibility, that of intercessor for our families.  An intercessor is a go between, someone that petitions a higher power on behalf of a lesser power.  Jesus is our intercessor, 1 Timothy 2:5-6 For there is one God, and one mediator also between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, 6who gave Himself as a ransom for all, the testimony given at the proper time.  John 17 gives us an example of what an intercessor should do.  In this chapter Jesus make six different requests or petitions to God.  My Bible titles this the High Priestly Prayer

1. Vs. 1, that He(Jesus) would glorify God.  Are we praying that we and our family and friends are glorifying God?
2. Vs. 3, that others/desciples would know God.  In Phil 1:9, Paul prays that the Philipians would grow in knowledge.   We need to be praying for our families spiritual knowledge.  How to they learn?  It’s our responsibility to provide them with ways to grow.  Family devotions, taking them to church, and talking about the things of God are all ways for them to learn.
3. Vs. 11, that they would be keep them by his power.  The NIV uses the word protect for keep.  We need to not only pray for their physical safety, but also for their spiritual.  If Satan can’t get us, he will surly go for our kids.
4. Vs. 17, sanctify them in truth.  We need to be praying for purity for our families and us.  Guys you know as well as I do how easy it would be take just click on that link.  What can our kids access?
5. Vs. 23, unity.  Unity in church as well as at home.  Do your kids ever fight?  How about you and your wife.
6. Vs. 24, continual relationship.  I forget what the statistic was exactly but I households where the father takes the family to church, I think it was close to 70% stayed in church compared to 20% were the father didn’t go.

We all pray for safety and grades but are we praying for the deeper things?  Single guys you aren’t off the hook.  You can be praying for all of these things for you families and friends.  Let’s make it a point to get out of the rut and get into some deep conversations with God and brings our loved ones needs with us.


~Walter E. Homan

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God’s Job Description for Men - Prophet Priest and King Series / Part 1 - A Godly Man’s Role as Prophet

I don’t know about you but I would never consider myself a prophet.  To be honest, just the thought of it scares me a bit.  I mean a prophet, really.  Aren’t those the guys that went around telling everyone they were about to die?  You know calling down fire from heaven.  Then you get in to all the end times stuff.  Definitely not me. 

So really what is a prophet anyway?  I pulled this from Easton’s Bible Dictionary “The “prophet” proclaimed the message given to him, as the “seer” beheld the vision of God. (See Num. 12:6, 8.) Thus a prophet was a spokesman for God; he spake in God’s name and by his authority (Ex. 7:1).”  Unger’s Bible Dictionary says it this way “One who is divinely inspired to communicate God’s will to His people and to disclose the future to them.”  Let’s grab a few key points from these.  A prophet is to proclaim the message.  To communicate God’s will to the people.  This is starting to sound more like what we’re all supposed to be doing.  Don’t send me nasty letters, I know there are no more prophets but there are certainly parts of this job description that we should be stepping up to.

Whether you are single, married, or married with kids; we are all supposed to be proclaiming God’s word to people.  Maybe not the same way Isaiah and Daniel did but we should be “proclaiming”. 

One of the saddest trends that I’ve seen in my life is men leaving the church.  Most churches have a larger population of women than men.  Because of this women are doing most of the teaching.  Here I go again sounding like a male chauvinist.  Please hear me out.  Women are great teachers and they seem to relate better with kids, but what if more of us taught Sunday school classes or Jr Church?  Do our kids see any men in biblical teaching roles besides the Pastor?  We need to be showing kids that it is manly to be in church and to be interested in the things of God.  How about our kids at home?  Who do they ask the spiritual questions of?  When my wife and I got married I used to get so mad at her because when she had a biblical question she would call her dad, she would never ask me.  Well I just got so indigent because I had read 1 Cor 14:35 and it says that a woman is suppose to be silent in church and ask her husband at home.  She didn’t ask me because I didn’t know the answer and I was too lazy to find it.  Men we need to take 2 Tim 2:15 to heart!  We need to STUDY to show ourselves APPROVED by God to ACCURATLY handle the BIBLE.  Study does not mean just read.  It means read to learn.  If you don’t know what the passage means keep digging until you do.  There are so many great study bibles out there and free resources online.  Even tonight I’ve been using the free online version of Logos, www.biblia.com.  Listen to good Pastors on the radio or podcasts.  There are great website too.  We don’t have an excuse.  It is our responsibility to be handling the spiritual teachings in our households.  Even if you’re not married you still can be teaching.

Okay ready for the other job of a prophet?  We need to call people to repentance.  Sometimes it may be a brother who has chosen the root of sin, or maybe one of our kids, or here is the tough one our wives.  Remember this power that we hold as men is to be handled with love and with the attitude to bring the offender back to God, not to beat them over the head and be self-righteous.  Remember Jonah? He ran from this assignment.  I think we do too.  As for me I would never confront someone on sin because I knew how evil my heart was.  The whole splinter vs. beam thing would always make be stay quiet.  Instead of getting my heart right so I could properly engage someone.  When we ignore sin and let it keep dragging them down we are sinning.  The loving thing to do is to confront them in love, after we’ve examined ourselves, in order to restore them.  Just picture American Idol contestants that can’t sing.  They never had anyone love them enough to tell them, instead that were afraid to hurt their feeling and then they end up a laughing stock on national tv.  Remember, remember, remember, this must be done humbly with the attitude of love not self-righteousness.

Believe guys I’m not beating up on you, I’m not there yet either.  Most of these devotionals are aimed straight at me.

So, do you study or read the Bible?  Can you proclaim God’s truth?  Are you ready to take on the role of prophet for your family and friends?

Man Up Men! Live Christlike!
Walter
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God’s Job Description for Men / Intro – Help Wanted: Are You Qualified to Fill the Position of a Godly Man?

What if to be considered a man we had to go through a normal method of getting a job.  You know, fill out the application, going to the interview, and training?  Is there really a job opening?  Yes.  Why?  Slowly we, as men, stopped showing up for work.  It seemed like the whole world went nuts.  Many men walked away from their responsibilities and since the men weren’t doing it, women started filling in the gap.  Here’s the problem.  Although many women are willing and able to fill the position, they were never designed for it. 

I know this makes me sound like a male chauvinist pig! Right?  Not if you consider Biblical principles.  Let’s start with some simple definitions.  Willing = to make oneself available.  Able = having the power, skill, or means.  Just because someone is willing and able doesn’t mean they are the best suited for the job.  Here’s an example; my son, Jedidiah, is 14.  If I need him to drive his siblings to school in my truck he is very willing, he is even able, he weighs in at around 140lbs and is 5’6” and he’s driven my truck in fields before, but he is not qualified to drive on the road.  Why?  Legally he is too young in the state on NJ.  Also he doesn’t have the maturity to carry the responsibility of driving a 2-ton truck down the road with 4 other lives in the truck and many other lives on the road.

God has created men & women equal in importance but different in function and responsibility.  I Corinthians 11:3 says “But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.”  This is where a lot of men get messed up.  They aren’t willing to follow God’s plan except for the part “man is the head of a woman”.  Guys we can’t run around shirking our responsibilities and then demand our wives obey us.  Don’t think this is God’s last words on the husband-wife relationship, just take a look at Ephesians 5:33, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her”.  So before you get to cocky just remember that our example is Christ giving up His life for the church.

In the next few weeks we will be exploring God’s Job Description for Men.  We will mainly be concentrating on man’s role as prophet, priest, and king and how we are to be fulfilling these roles with our wives and families. 

How about it men?  Are you ready for the job? What’s your skill set?  Would you have to leave half of the application blank? Are you willing to step up to your role as leader?  Are you willing to subject yourself to the humbling position of being a Godly man?  Are you up for the challenge?